We enjoy inviting single guys to play with us from time to time. I enjoy the MFM thing occasionally because it gives me two guys at my complete disposal. We both love the couple thing, but it can turn into such a free-for-all (not a bad thing!) and sometimes I just want all the attention on me. Yeah, I guess I’m selfish!

Surprisingly enough, we’ve actually found it more difficult to find a guy we “click” with than couples. I’m not talking about “click” as in “sparks” - I get that from R. I’m talking about “click” as in finding a guy we would also like to hang out with. We’re not the fuck and forget type. We prefer to have playmates we can also hang out with out of the bedroom - be they couples, guys or women. Our experience has been that if we can all hang out and have fun out of the bedroom… the times in the bedroom are way more fun. That’s our main goal in swinging - FUN!

We have a few criteria when looking for single guys to join us. First, R leaves the choosing completely up to me. He says the mfm thing is for me and he cannot choose a guy for me. Personally I just think there are only so many cock pictures he can look at (as I’m sure most straight guys feel). LOL! So what do I look for? A well-written profile is first. I don’t need to read a guy’s life story… a few well-written sentences without tons of spelling errors is fine. Seriously! It’s so easy to run a spell checker. If a guy isn’t smart enough to do that, then he’s probably not somebody we’d want to hang out with! Next, photos. Cock pictures are nice, face photos are better, bonus if you have both! Finally, before I send a message, I like to see if a guy has experience with couples. Usually, a guy with couple experience will know the give and take of the mfm threesome. That’s one of the best things about SLS and AFF, a person can have testimonials posted about them by other members. I will normally only contact guys who have testimonials from couples.

A side note on cock pics… Guys, trim the hedge! That is something I, and most women, look for! There’s nothing worse than going down on a guy and coming back up with hair in your teeth. Women do it for you so please return the favor!!! As R says, “there’s nothing erotic about flossing and eating at the same time.”

OK, so we send a couple of messages, we’re both interested, we chat on IM, we go over basics and have some hot talk, everything looks good and the three of us decide to meet. Cool!

Unfortunately, we have yet to find a regular fuck buddy guy. I would love to find somebody we can hang out with and play with. Somebody who, if the mood strikes me to have two cocks completely to myself, we could just call and invite over. Oh well… still searching.